One of the hardest parts about being a family caregiver can be the burden of making decisions for your senior’s care. You may occasionally worry about whether you’re making the right decision or not and that’s not easy to face at all.
Keep Her Involved Whenever Possible
Remember that even though you’re helping her to make decisions, this is still her life. As long as your elderly family member is able to be involved in conversations about the decision, make sure that you keep her involved. This is a sign of respect and is something that will benefit everyone involved down the line.
Try to Be Patient
This isn’t an easy time. There are decisions that must be made quickly, but that doesn’t mean that they’re simple decisions that you can rush. You are going to have to be as patient as possible while still getting to the heart of the matter. Some days are going to be easier than others as far as this goes. Also, you might make a decision that is the right one, such as hiring elder care providers, but it isn’t one your elderly family member enjoys. She may well come around given some time, so it’s important to let that solution marinate for a bit.
Follow the Decisions of the Past, if Possible
For some situations, your elderly family member won’t be able to give you the advice you want in order to make a decision. What you may have to do is to rely on the decisions and situations from the past to shed light on what needs to happen now. This isn’t a perfect or all-encompassing solution, but it can help you to feel more in tune with the decision ahead of you.
Remember the Golden Rule
Above all, it can help to remember the “Golden Rule” when you’re in the throes of making big decisions. How would you want your senior or someone else who cares about you to make decisions for you? Keeping that perspective in mind can sometimes help you to make decisions much more easily, even when they’re difficult ones to make.
One of the most difficult aspects of being a caregiver is that you have to make decisions for your elderly family member all the time. Some of those decisions are going to be easier than others, of course, but that doesn’t make them less important. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt and remember that you’re doing the best that you can.